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Speak your Truth…. The power of your words

Words we use to sabotage ourselves

How we use certain words in our daily vocabulary or in effect the order in which we use these words harm and hinder us in the ability to attain our goals and create a positive loving and happy life. Words that we use can sabotage everything we work so hard to attain. We must master to the knowledge of the power of words. This is one of the main emphases of Neuro-linguistic Programming as well as the yoga sutras.

Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is an approach to psychotherapy and organizational change based on “a model of interpersonal communication chiefly concerned with the relationship between successful patterns of behavior and the subjective experiences (esp. patterns of thought) underlying them” and “a system of alternative therapy based on this which seeks to educate people in self-awareness and effective communication, and to change their patterns of mental and emotional behavior“.

The Yoga Sutras, according to Pantanjali, it is the ability to direct the mind (our thoughts) without interruption and or distraction.

Both of these examples are in essence trying to alert us of the fact that how we use our words can and do affect your mental internal dialogue which creates your personal reality.

One word that we use very often is the word “But”.  What we normally do is create a statement in your mind and the spew it through your mouth. When we use the word “but what we don’t realize is that you are creating an energetic block wall so big that even our most powerful efforts cannot allow you to break through it. If you can imagine, it is like being inside a storage garage and having the big metal door come down in front of your and lock you inside.

Many times the words we use to sabotage ourselves can be changed a bit of mindful practice. How many times do we say something similar to this; “I want to be able to earn more money and get a new job BUT I can’t get anyone to call me back.” What you did right there is stated the positive affirmation first and then bring the wall down with the word BUT when you stated the negative.

Well our mind works in mysterious ways and what ends up happening is the fact that anything after the word BUT is what the mind attaches itself to and this then becomes our underlying thought that gets stored in our subconscious and it creates a belief that we buy into and thereby creating our reality inadvertently.

What we need to do is think about what we are about to say and if you insist on using the word but then restructure your sentences to restructure the power of the mind to create your new reality. For instance, say instead “ I can’t get anyone to call me back BUT I am now looking to get a new job and make more money.”

So what I am telling you is that just as we use words that can and do sabotage our goals, dreams, and aspirations, so too can we begin to be more mindful and use words that can create positive opportunities, thoughts, and beliefs that can bring harmony and ease into your life. Know that the power of words creates our thoughts and our thoughts create our belief and our beliefs create our reality.

This is what we are living now!  So ask yourself do I need to change?


  1. W. Fohne February 19, 2018 at 11:28 pm - Reply

    I agree that our thoughts and words can lead us in a negative or positive direction in life. Speaking the truth, I learnt from my mistakes and 25 years of military service, so at my last Navy command, I was ranked the # 1 leader and manager in the naval upper management levels, for 2 years in a row. We all, can learn from all.

  2. Rosa Lopez February 20, 2018 at 12:55 am - Reply

    I know that our word can change the way that we see the world. Now I am thinking about my truth and my reality and definitely I want to change some word that I use regularly because I want to direct my life in a positive way.

  3. axia February 20, 2018 at 1:50 am - Reply

    Hello Marti, I really enjoyed your video as well as the blog. It’s so true, how frequently we are our own enemies by using the wrong words without even knowing we are sabotaging our goals. We need to be more aware of using “I can” words and avoid using “but”. thank you so much for the good advise and inspiration to continue on this journey., Namaste

  4. Monica Perez-Isaac February 20, 2018 at 3:52 am - Reply

    In the Mexican culture, we often used the word “no,”. and when I become a mom I realize that I need to work in transform what I want to say to my children in a positive way. For example: Insead to say to my son “Don’t draw on the wall,” I learned to say, “We will assign a place where you draw your works of art”. or “Don’t stand on the chair, so I said “the chairs are to be seated, if you stand on it it is possible to turn around and hurt yourself”. First, was very hard because I have the habit to react but working in it frequently it seemed an excellent exercise for my mind. So I’m agree with the thought that is shared in the video.

  5. margaret mcguire February 20, 2018 at 4:45 am - Reply

    Gosh, I better start believing in me so, I can create a better more positive life. Thank you for explaining it so well.

  6. Mayra Montiel February 20, 2018 at 5:33 pm - Reply

    Wow!!! How important is to prepare ourselves to become positive speakers for our own good, by relearning the way we think and speak, we can impact our surroundings, Positive actions bring positive things!!!

  7. Dianna Cuevas February 20, 2018 at 7:47 pm - Reply

    I notice in myself I do use the word BUT a lot when I’m setting goals and I never realized I was setting myself up for failure. I’m going to make a effort to not do that anymore

  8. Maureen.Archer February 21, 2018 at 10:28 pm - Reply

    I Agree that are words can impact our emotions in a positive and negative manner. I will definetly try to have a more positive outlook on things.

  9. Mari Porter February 22, 2018 at 9:57 am - Reply

    Completely agree , our thoughts are so powerful and many fail to realize. I mean that’s how the whole placebo affect works Our thoughts create our reality and just by having a strong belief in something can alter many things .

  10. Alejandra Picazo February 27, 2018 at 8:30 am - Reply

    This was an eye opener and brought me to begin practice self awareness and using better wording. I personally can think of many times that I’ve used wording that was used negatively with meaning of no improvement. I appreciate you and how you explained how wording is a such a factor in every day life. I need to practice this every day. Thank you!

  11. J Adair February 27, 2018 at 5:56 pm - Reply

    I have struggled a lot with learning how to use a more positive syntax in my everyday life. For about two years I was caught in a bubble of sadness and so everything I would say or do always had a “but” attached to it or some other form of negativity. I have learned how to, for a lack of a better saying, “rewire” my brain. I started small with saying things about myself that I liked and then worked into accepting the things I at one point didn’t like. Using the sutras and yamas that have been taught in class I have found that my progress that once took months to complete has been reduced greatly and I am able to reach my goal to make it to my next step within a few weeks.

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